How To Fix A Broken Relationship - 8 Simple Ideas

Every relationship has peaks and valleys, likewise, all couples are likely to encounter challenges in their relationship, and even the healthiest couples experience conflict. How you and your partner handle it can make or break things.

Love is the decision to love someone well, and now comes the question: what is it to love someone well? To love someone well is to love, it is accepting, it is generosity, it is caring, it is cultivating, it is listening, it is respecting, and starting above all with ourselves. When day-to-day communication begins to fail, it is time to do something to repair your relationship.

These are some of the problems or difficulties that couples most commonly describe as the reason for separation.

1. Communication difficulties 

2. Living together 

3. Differences in fundamental values

4. Problems with the couple's family

5. Financial difficulties emotional dependence 

6. Disappointments.

If you feel like your problems are tearing your relationship apart and you're not sure how to fix things, you may be experiencing common problems that can actually be solved with skill and intention (ie maybe you or your partner constantly bring work, family or friends stress to home and you are having unrealistic expectations for your partner). 

The following 8 ideas and strategies will help you mend a broken relationship.

1. Be willing to Apologize and Forgive each other 

You and your partner are imperfect people who are going to make mistakes despite the best intentions and genuine love for each other. Perhaps your partner criticized you after a long day at work, or perhaps you lost your temper due to external stressors. Taking responsibility and genuinely apologizing for hurting your partner is the path to healing and preserving your connection. So is forgiveness.

2. Tackle your challenges as a Team 

Regardless of the problem, both of you need to want your relationship to work to get it back on track. They should come together as allies, approach the conflict together and not point fingers at others and act as enemies. Hopefully, you and your partner are on the same page and want to fix your relationship and not break it up. Remember that you are in this together and that a healthy relationship requires two.

3. Use healthy Communication and Listening skills 

It is important to take care of the communication in the couple, not to take things for granted or over-understood. Say what you want to communicate and if you don't understand or something hurts us, ask. It is also important to cultivate trust in the other and the peace of mind that we are in a safe environment.

While it can be challenging to be your best self during emotionally charged conversations, your relationship cannot thrive without healthy, open, and honest communication. Behaviors like interrupting, using defensive or accusatory language, yelling, lashing out, and dismissing your partner's concerns (and vice versa) often lead to further breaking down of troubled relationships. 

4. Take a Break during Heated Conversations

In fact, it can be difficult to listen and be present if your mind is filled with anger or anxiety. 

If you can't stay calm and think rationally during arguments, you won't be in the right headspace to do your best. 

Whatever you do, don't walk away, slam doors, shut your mouth, and leave your partner wondering where you went.

Have a proactive agreement with your partner in which you both can exercise a time-out. Once you have this rule in place and would like to implement a break, you can say something like “I am committed to listening to your concerns and doing my part to resolve things. However, I feel very angry and down right now. I feel like our conversation would be more constructive if I took a breather. I'm going to go for a 15-minute walk and relax to some music, but I love you and I hope we can figure this out when I get back. Thank you in advance for understanding and giving me a temporary space." Love is a language which needed to communicate each and everyday single moment in our relationship.

5. Practice Sympathy, Compassion, And Kindness.

Your partner's feelings are valid and so are yours. It is important to have compassion for your partner. You don't have to agree on every little detail in life, but you do need to empathize with how your partner is feeling and not minimize their experience. 

6. Take Each Other's Concern Seriously

Whether you're battling about minor things, similar as who does the clothing, or greater issues, similar to an absence of certainty, it's essential to tune in and make a move. This includes revamping trust by finishing when you say you will do clothing or return home at the time you guaranteed.

Show your accomplice that you are attempting to change and carry positive energy to the relationship by thinking twice about the easily overlooked details (not your qualities or ethical quality) and figuring out something worth agreeing on.

7. Apply maturity and not deposit our frustration on the other. 

When the day is not as we would have liked, or work squeezes us, or the children overwhelm us, it is important not to go to the other to deposit our frustration. It's easier to vent to your partner and tell them that the day has been hard or even ask for their help than to snowball and add to the problem with unnecessary upset.

8. Apply affection, self-care, and cultivation of the couple. 

Stop from time to time and think that what we don't do today is one day less than we could have done. If you want to love, care, give kisses, receive kisses and say I love you, take advantage of every moment, and reflect on whether you prefer to let yourself be carried away by the day-to-day and the routine, or stop, breathe and do your day to day in your own way. A healthy couple needs to put their will, attitude and desire.

To be able to love someone, it is essential to respect them, and also to surrender and accept them, it is necessary that we have previously internalized all these processes in ourselves and in our experience. Therefore, it is important to do a self-labor of love, to be able to love and let ourselves be loved too. 

If we are lucky enough to work, finding our partner and cultivating a happy marriage or couple is something that brings very positive consequences to our lives and our families, and I will also tell you that it is one of the best things that they can happen to you, it is a precious gift of life and full of love. Having and being a life partner with whom to grow, develop, love, and overcome all the circumstances that life brings us, is one of the best gifts we can receive in life. 

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